Healing Through Relationship Relationship is what changes us. Relationship is what tests us. It brings us to or knees, revealing our deepest wounds and most closely guarded secrets. Relationship elevates and intoxicates us. Relationship is the bread and water of the psyche. Without it we do not thrive. It is the soil in the garden of life in which we plant ourselves and grow. The quality of this soil, the quality of our relationships, is what determines how deep our roots wil